Most people have a sense of morality. We have these limits in our mind that we feel very uncomfortable about crossing. I realize there are people who criticize the idea of imposing limits on yourself at all. I have had friends, using the word loosely, who seemed to be mocking me for my moral convictions. Yet, when I found myself on one such occasion snapping the rubber band and participating in something that I felt really crummy for later, what words did I hear from their mouths? "Now, remember Vicky, we didn't tell our husbands we are going to do this particular part of the evening. They would not like it at all!" I was aghast at hearing these words. The realization that they were afraid to tell their husbands what they were doing made me realize they certainly recognized the activity as wrong morally. Too bad that little tidbit wasn't apparent when I was being ridiculed for my morality earlier.
Myself, I was single at the time. But, I am the type of person who would just tell my husband what I was going to do. I wouldn't be sneaky about it at least. So, I saw this as definitely a violation of their own morals, as well as mine. The thing is, we all have morals. And, our morals do not grow to accommodate our behavior. I've heard it put aptly that we should always live up to our standards, by lowering them if necessary. But, you can't really lower your standards. You can break them. And, you can certainly try to just stretch them.
We do that you know. I thought about this today while playing an online game. Foursquare is a game where you get points and rankings for checking into places. So, the goal is to get 1st position, especially if you are competitive. You can add places to the map, if they are not already there, and part of the fun is in creating silly fictitious places. I haven't been able to get out of my house much, so I have a number of places created, likemy home, my street, my internet network, my bed, my coffee carafe... you get the idea. The only problem is, there is a thin line here in checking into places where my sense of "cheating" wants to kick in. I just find it difficult to check into any old place on the map, if I am just driving by, for example. And, I've noticed certain things are ok... like the cities, towns, parks, and several other things like the fictitious places. But, today I noticed the single rule that applied to all these places I was "stretching" the rules for... no walls. They all were open air places. That made me laugh. Clearly, my conscience could stretch enough to say, "Well, I am driving past a park, and it has no walls... hence I am at the park lol. But, I am not at that Krystal, so I can not check in at the Krystal."
Why are we made that way? Why will our conscience stretch like that to allow us to "bend" the rules without too much guilt? Why do we stop at a certain point when we feel we have stretched it too thin? I don't know the answer to these questions. Maybe you do.